Trauma vs. Intuition
Trauma and Intuition and the Unknown, oh my!
Intuition always has more clarity with it, but the emotions won’t always feel good. A common misconception is: my intuition will only bring me good feelings. This misconception is where we get confused on not being able to tell the difference between acting from self-sabotage/trauma and your real instincts. A common theme with self-sabotage is that it NEVER feels good. Especially because a self-sabotage usually stems from a trauma in the first place! It's like expecting a flower to bloom from dead roots. Outlook not good.
Whether you're aware of it or not yet, you know that you're not acting in your best interest. Those moments when the voice in your head is saying, “you know this isn’t a good idea but I see you’re doing it anyway..."
This is why it's crucial to get clear on what your self-sabotages are so you're aware when you're acting from them.
What are some of your self-sabotages? (Habits, behaviors or tendencies that don't act in your best interest)
When do you become aware of the sabotage? Before you make the decision or afterwards?
What are the common factors surrounding your self-sabotage? (Environment, time of day, certain friendships/family members)
At what point do you know you're going against yourself in some way? Does a certain thought or feeling settle over you? (Shame and regret are common ones)
Who is the voice in your head that makes you think twice about sabotaging yourself? *cough instinct cough*
When have you made a decision that didn't feel good but was right?
When have you acted on your intuition instead of the sabotage?
Searching for these answers can feel really messy and uncomfortable. This is facing the ugly parts of ourselves that like to hide in the dark. The more light we shed on them, the greater our awareness becomes. Awareness will open up more clarity and trust can finally shine through.
Use EFT or Ho'oponopono to keep clearing out these emotions. You're doing such great work and I'm hugging you in spirit!
AWARENESS:
Intuition always tries to bring you into alignment.
Intuition dances with the unknown.
Intuition won’t always feel good, but it will feel right.
AFFIRMATION:
"My intuition gives me the answer I truly need."
Listen, Look & Curiosity
Listen: your life and language
What are the red flags that go off in your head/body when you’re trying to align with something that doesn’t feel right?
How are other circumstances in your life reflecting misalignment?
Can you recognize when distress signs have tried to get your attention?
What did you really need to hear within yourself?
What truth did you need to know?
When/who/what do you notice contributes to feeling at odds internally?
What language do you use to describe your instinct?
I think.
I feel.
I see.
I know.
Look: how the universe shows up
How does outside validation from the Universe show up for you?
What signs have shown up lately to support and encourage you?
How has the Universe shown up to support you in the past?
Have you received the same sign throughout the years, or something new?
REMEMBER:
Nothing is too small. If you thought it was a sign/encouragement, it was! Trust your instincts.
AFFIRMATION:
"I want my life to be the rule, not the exception."
"The more I trust myself, the more support I receive in unexpected ways."
Curiosity: your new BFF
Be curious with your thoughts and question yourself. Presence a current situation that you feel like you have to figure out and ask yourself the 3 questions below:
Why do I feel like I have to know that?
What do I need in this moment?
What do I most need to be able to hear myself?
REMEMBER:
Take a breath and be open.
You can react in your own timeframe.
Time can be healing.
Maybe I just have to know what feels best.
EFT: Possibilities
What if...
You’re closing loops! You’re transforming your energy before your own eyes! YEAH YOU!!!
“What if I knew how to listen.”
“What if it was safe to hear myself.”
“What if everything I needed already existed within myself.”
“What if my only job in this life is to get quiet enough to hear myself.”
“What if I know more than I think I do.”
“What if I am my own best council.”
“What if my instincts reflect what my life is going to be and not what it used to be.”
“What if I can be surprised by the unknown in the best possible way.”
“What if my instincts only lead me to the miraculous.”
“What if my life moving forward is the clearest reflection of my deepest desires.”
“What if the Universe talks back to me through my instincts.”
“What if I trust myself so goddamn much that no person, place or thing could make me hear differently.”
“What if I belong to myself.”
“What if this life of mine is just getting started.”
“What if my gut instinct is my own North Star.”
“What if I already know.”
I deeply and completely love and accept myself.