"Self-care isn't selfish. You can't serve from an empty vessel." Eleanor Brown
I see so many clients who go, go, go. And then go some more. Between work, relationships, socializing, family needs and sleep, there's not much time left over for anything else. This is when you'll notice that you get sick, start to feel run down, are more easily aggravated or have less control over your emotions. We've all irrationally lost it over something meaningless, "how is this sink NEVER empty?!" "Turn right on red, but FASTER!" *beep beep*
This, my dear friend, is a call to slow yourself down. In all of the commitments you've made, how many of them are truly crucial? How are you recharging from such a high-speed lifestyle? We never forget about charging our phones, because we want them to be able to function and perform the way they're supposed to. Do you treat yourself the same way?
Self-care looks different for everyone. Meditation is a necessity for me, because I feel less reactive on the days I take the time to meditate. I love the zen saying, "You should sit in meditation for twenty minutes everyday unless you're too busy. Then you should sit for an hour." How true is that?! In the busier, stressful times of our life, that's when we need self-care practices the most.
I've always called exercise "free therapy." If you're busy moving and exhausting your mind, those overwhelming thoughts can't consume you as much. Sweat it out. Those magical chemicals of endorphins from exercise are no myth. Not only do endorphins trigger a positive feeling in your body, but they also interact with the receptors in your brain that reduce your perception of pain. Amazing, right? You're designed to feel good.
If you're thinking, "I barely have time to read this, let alone exercise/meditate..." you're not alone. If drinking your cup of coffee/tea in the morning is very important to you, view it as a ritual. For those 10 minutes every morning, that is YOUR time. No checking the news or scrolling through posts, it's sacred time that only exists to help you feel connected to yourself. Take a deep breath, take a sip.
Being in nature, going to bed earlier, reading, putting your phone on silent, taking a deep breath, noticing the surreal amount of lightning bugs in the dark, singing along to your favorite song, cooking a healthy meal, canceling plans-- all of these are conscious pauses. Connecting back to yourself is the name of the game.
Be as kind to yourself as you are to your phone. You're a priority in your own life. It's not selfish, it's self-care. It's necessary.
Comment below with what self-care looks like for you. There are no wrong answers!
meet the author: Kara Laudenslager
Hello, I'm Kara! I'm an energy healing practitioner, massage therapist and unapologetic tree hugger. I believe that getting to know ourselves is our greatest gift and responsibility in this life. Create the life you want by first knowing who is doing the creating.