"Life isn't about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself." - George Bernard Shaw
It has arrived...my 30th birthday. For months leading up to this day, I've felt nothing more than mild hilarity over the fact that I'd be 30. It sounded ridiculous to me, like receiving unwarranted praise for my flute skills. Sometimes it felt like my age was finally starting to catch up to how old my spirit felt. (Shout out to the all the Old Souls.)
About a month before the actual birthday, I started to lose my goddamn mind. THIRTY?! What does this mean?! Your thirties are generally the decade for marriage and kids, right? Fuck. Do I want that for myself, do I even believe in that? These questions about what the future held had me in a state of total panic, dread and a rare moments of clarity for good measure. It's safe to say I wasn't being very kind to myself. I put myself in a pressure cooker and expected to feel at peace.
Today is here, I'm 30, and I'm still myself. There's no more dread or pressure, against all odds I feel genuine happiness that it's my birthday.
Thirty years can sound young or ancient depending on your perspective, but here's some of my biggest takeaways from my life so far.
1. I can have no idea about what the next step in life can look like, and it will completely work out the way it's supposed to.
2. The Universe always sends me exactly what I need, even if it's not what I wanted. (The Rolling Stones were ahead of the spiritual curve on this one: You can't always get what you want, but if you try sometimes you might find, you get what you need)
3. Energy Healing is my BIG purpose. Whenever I stray too far from that purpose, life becomes much harder.
4. Not one, not two, but three concussions can be healed from. The torment of physical pain can be derailing and depressing, but in no way a death-sentence.
5. My biggest, conscious life-changes have been born out of pain.
6. It's okay to be reborn and leave old parts of yourself behind. You weren't meant to be in a box anyway.
7. You've never felt more alive than when helping someone to remember how amazing they really are.
8. Homemade popcorn is still one of the best dinner options.
9. Being authentic is the only way to truly help someone and yourself.
10. Feeling alone and feeling lonely are wildly different.
11. If I want people to accept new versions of me, I need to accept myself first. (And also be willing to let others change.)
12. New artists will come and go, but The Beatles are forever.
13. What I do isn't solely who I am. But it's sure as hell a big part of me.
14. Heartbreak and love can be the two of the best teachers.
15. Some of the best conversations I've had have been with kids under age 5.
16. It's okay to deliberately look for, ask, and plead for guidance, and still feel amazed when you receive it.
17. Feeling like a fraud is different than actually being a fraud.
18. Self-care is mandatory.
19. Keep people in your life who remind you that, "everything is going to be okay."
20. Music has a profound impact on your mood, listen wisely.
21. Forgiveness isn't as hard as you thought, even if it means working on it daily. In the car. At red lights.
22. Not everyone will understand what you do, and that's okay. You're the one who gets the privilege of pursuing your passion. How lucky are you?
23. Having no answers can sometimes be the most freeing experience.
24. Comfort zones expand.
25. Deciding which shampoo to buy can still sometimes be the hardest decision.
26. Having a 10 year, 5 year or 2 year plan aren't requirements for success. Or happiness. Or even security.
27. Changing your energy really does change your life.
28. It's okay to feel undeniably connected to the Universe, the wonders of this life and feel more Spirit than body, but also just want to watch reruns of The Office.
29. Self-employment isn't lonely when your clients are awesome and you've never felt more grateful to be surrounded by like-minded people.
30. Taking a risk on yourself pays off because you know that this life is meant to be created as you go. There's no better time, place or season to share your gifts with the world. You are you, and that's your superpower.
All the love,
Kara (your local 30-year old)
meet the author: Kara Laudenslager
Hello, I'm Kara! I'm an Energy Healing Practitioner, Transformational Coach and unapologetic tree hugger. I believe that getting to know ourselves is our greatest gift and responsibility in this life. Create the life you want by first knowing who is doing the creating.